Solomon’s Paradox

Solomon’s Paradox

Solomon’s Paradox is a phenomenon that has fascinated social scientists for years. It refers to our tendency to be much better at understanding and solving other people’s problems than we are at tackling our own. This paradox is a testament to the complexity of human nature and highlights the strange ways that our minds work.

When I use this super-power, it is generally not appreciated.

For years, researchers have studied this phenomenon, exploring the reasons why we are better at solving other people’s problems than our own. Some experts believe that this is because we are able to take a more objective view of other people’s problems, while our own problems are clouded by emotions and personal biases. Others believe that it has to do with the fact that we are more likely to seek out help when we are dealing with our own problems, whereas we are often more willing to offer help to others.

Regardless of the reasons, there is no denying the fact that we are better at helping others than we are at helping ourselves. This can be seen in a variety of everyday situations, such as when we are able to take a look at someone in a toxic relationship and see that they would be better off if they left, or when we yell at the characters in horror movies for splitting up instead of sticking together.

One of the most interesting things about this paradox is that we are able to envision how a person’s life should be and the steps it would take to get there. This is often something that we struggle to do for ourselves, even when we know what the right steps are. For example, we may know that we need to exercise more, eat healthier, and get more sleep, but still struggle to make these changes in our own lives.

So why is this the case? Why are we so much better at solving other people’s problems than our own? One explanation is that we are often too close to our own problems to see them clearly. Our emotions and personal biases get in the way, making it difficult for us to make the right decisions. On the other hand, when we are looking at someone else’s problems, we are able to step back and see the situation more objectively.

Another factor that plays a role in this paradox is the fear of failure. When we are trying to solve our own problems, we are more likely to feel like we have a lot to lose. We don’t want to fail, and so we are more likely to be paralyzed by fear and indecision. On the other hand, when we are helping someone else, we are not as afraid of failure because the stakes are not as high.

Our ability to be better at solving other people’s problems than our own is a testament to the power of objectivity and the importance of stepping back from our own problems in order to see them more clearly. By learning to do this for ourselves, we may be able to overcome this paradox and become better problem-solvers, both for ourselves and for others.

I mentor two kids and several entrepreneurs. Similarities are coincidental.